If you have children, you know how hard it can be at times to get them to do the things they should.
Between after school activities, video games, cell phones, and computers, convincing your kids to take care of their household chores and other responsibilities can be a real challenge.
The truth is, not every method of motivation will work with your child. Also, what works for one child may be detrimental to another!
* As parents, it’s easy to fall into the trap of wanting to be a friend to your child, but your goal is to be their leader, teacher, and motivator, too!
Here are a few things you can try to help motivate your kids to get things done:
1. Praise can be a strong motivator. Your kids want your attention and praise. If they know that doing the things they’re supposed to do will bring them praise, they might do more of those things.
* By encouraging them and praising them frequently, you’re reinforcing good behavior.
2. Offer rewards. Often, children are motivated by rewards. The rewards don’t have to be large or involve money. You can reward your children by:
* Spending time with them doing an activity they enjoy
* Reading to them or helping them out with a school activity
* Playing games with them
* Watching a movie together
* All of these rewards are positive motivators for your children. They’ll be much more eager to do their household chores if the reward is something they can look forward to.
3. Lead by example. If your kids see you doing nothing all day long, they’ll feel as if it’s okay for them to do the same thing. Remember that your children are like a sponge and they look up to you and want to emulate you.
* Show your kids that regular tasks can be rewarding. For example, seeing a bunch of separate ingredients transform into cookies that get compliments can give your child a confidence boost to help out again next time!
4. Fear of consequences. There’s a big difference between consequences and punishment. When your children don’t do the things they’re supposed to do, you can teach them how their actions or inactions can have a negative impact on their lives and the lives of others.
5. Show love. Your children need and want your love and devotion. Get involved in their lives. If your child is really interested in something, do it with them!
* Showing children you appreciate them and respect their choices will build a deeper bond between you. When you ask them to get something done, they’ll be more likely to do it because of the mutual respect between you.
6. Give them a slightly more challenging task to handle. First, convey to them that you have faith in them that they can handle this task, and put it in their hands to complete it. So long as it is not such a monumental task, or one that if not done, has big consequences, put some faith in your child and see how they handle it. But also make sure that it is a task that, if done or not done, can have a direct impact on them.
Motivating your children isn’t always easy. It takes dedication and consistency to provide the example and direction needed to build a child’s character.
While it may seem easier to throw in the towel and do things yourself, standing steadfast and finding new ways to motivate your kids is much more likely to help him become a productive, responsible adult.
As a parent, it’s your job to mold your children into caring, responsible and respectful adults. Remember, children are people too and are motivated by the same things that motivate anyone else.
Things like love, attention, pleasure, rewards and recognition top the list of things children crave in their lives. Heaping these essential motivators onto your children will provide great rewards throughout their lives.